Asked by Anonymous Anonymous
I recently came out to my closest friend about being ftm.. she was.. less than accepting of the idea and tried to play it off as a phase. Do you have any suggestions on how to cope or how to explain it to her? She's the first person I came out to and if this keeps happening I don't want to do it again..
oh wow jeez that really sucks anon im sorry about that
just prove to her that its not a phase, and tell her as your closest friend it would mean a lot to you if she could use the proper pronouns and your preferred name if youve picked out out/are changing it
and remind her that its not a choice for you to have been born like that
it can be a hard thing to put into words sometimes but saying “im a boy on the inside, in my head, even if im not on the outside” is simple enough
if she continues to refuse to use the proper name and pronouns, or tries to get you to change back then drop her
i know its hard to drop a friend like that but if shes a real friend shed be respecting your wishes and being supportive
and just remember not everyone is going to react like that
some people will react badly others will react well and others may be neutral, just make sure to come out in the safest of possible situations i suggest somewhere semi public so the person cant make a scene
its hard but in the end its going to be worth it
good luck dude
